What’s up current and future naturalistas!
My name is Lisa. I’m an Internet entrepreneur who teaches several Udemy courses — including one that shows you how to earn passive income online with a website.
While being an entrepreneur remains my top passion, natural hair is becoming a close 2nd.
In May 2010, I made the decision to transition to natural hair after using relaxers for over 27 years. I transitioned for 18 months without a “big chop” — something many people said was impossible.
[See my first video as a natural.]
Going natural is something I never thought I’d do because I have always assumed the maintenance and styling of my hair would be nearly impossible. Not to mention, I was afraid of how I’d look.
However, over the years I realized the toll relaxers had taken on my hair. See the video below…
This caused me to look for other options. The natural option became more and more intriguing to me. I longed for healthy hair again.
Nevertheless, I was still hesitant and intimidated by the transition process. So instead of going completely natural I thought I’d try tex-laxing my hair.
This is the method of using a mild relaxer or texturizer to slightly loosen your natural curl pattern. This gives you a more textured look, but straightens your enough to make it easier to press/straighten your hair if you so desire.
About 8 months into my texlaxing process I noticed that some of my hair was processing more than others so I was starting to see multiple textures. This was due to uneven processing times and different hair textures on my head.
The back of my hair hardly took the texturizer (mild relaxer) at all, so a year after my last relaxer, the back of my hair is mostly natural because I have been slowly chopping my ends.
So at least I have some natural hair to play with while I wait for the rest of the relaxer to grow out.
YouTube to the Rescue
So about 6 months into texturizing, I started spending time on YouTube watching channels that featured women maintaining and styling their natural hair.
I quickly learned that the natural hair product world had come a long way, and there are a lot of great products out there that would allow me to manage and even do “wash and go” styles. Wearing natural hair didn’t mean I had to wear an afro everyday.
The versatility potential was truly inspiring and that was all I needed to see. I was pumped and ready to began my journey.
Not Good at Styling Your Hair?
A lot of people fear transitioning because they aren’t skilled with doing their own hair. Trust me! I wasn’t skilled either. As I already mentioned, I learned a lot from YouTube.
When I was relaxed, I was not adventurous when it came to styling my hair. If I wanted a something new, I’d wear a half wig! 🙂
So don’t let the fact that you don’t “do hair” intimidate you. You can learn like I did. Three years ago I would have never thought I’d be able to pull off flat twist styles like this and this.
You can also check out more of my transitioning hairstyles here.
So I hope that encourages you.
Check out My Natural Hair Shirts
I got into graphic design a few years ago and put that to use on some shirts. You can view all my natural hair shirts here. Your support is greatly appreciated!
You can follow me on this blog, YouTube and Twitter as I chronicle my natural hair journey online. I hope to not only educate people about the transition, but inspire more people to take this natural journey.
Having said that, this is not an anti-relaxer website. If a relaxer is your choice, then by all means do what makes you happy. After all, healthy hair should be your main goal whether you relax or wear it natural.
Be blessed and thanks for visiting.
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i am currently trying to decide to go natural. I’ve been using relaxers and flat irons all my life. I stopped using Relaxers altogether about 2 years ago and i’ve just been using flat irons ever since. i’ve been straightening my hair once a week. I wish i could show you my hair because i dont know anything about my type of hair besides straighten it to look “proper” and to put it up in a pony tail. i needs some tips and advice!
Hi please help, my hair is thick at the ends, does that mean I need a trim, the other parts from roots are soft then when I get to the end its thick, frizzy hard to comb.
Hi Lisa I’m 6month now in my transitioning process but it’s hard. My friends on natural hair are saying I should cut the relaxed ends of because they did the same and their hair is beautiful. And I’m in nigeria here the weather doesn’t help our hair at all. It’s Hot! I’m confused about cutting the relaxed ends out. Pls what can i do. Thanks
just went natural a month (3/5/18) ago and it’s an adjustment. My hair is starting to grow back. How often should I do a regular wash or just co-wash my hair?
Thank you very much for dis inspiration, but am just a starter,since may dis year was the last time relax my hair.don’t know if I can chop the tip off.cos I want to see just natural hair only.
Kiara Barnes says
i have transition and have not had a relaxer since June 13, 2014. Im loving my natural curls and my hair is now mid back. I get a blow out every 6 months for length check. it may get hard but it will really pay off in the long run.
I have been transitioning for about 9 months and i am confused. How often should i trim off the ends? What products should i use? Why is it taking so long? It took my friend a year and just around a third of my hair is natural. Very depressing. I have long hair so people keep trying to talk me out of it but i want to do this. I don’t een know why? I just want something new and healthy, you know?
I am having a hard growing my hair my hair is super short i try wild growth but my hair is the same lenght
La Tonya says
2 years without a perm. Got it chopped last year. My afro is not growing like I want it to. It is thinning as I get older. Please help me.
I know that can be distressing about your hair. You may want to see a doctor to find out the reason why your hair is thinning. Seek out a dermatologist that specializes in hair loss. Hope it all works out for you.
Goodafternoon.So I went natural now for about two year but I then start putting relaxer in my front.cause I want it to lay down.i then start wearing lace front wigs and it start pulling my edges out.So now we just found out I’m pregnant.And i want to cut my the relaxer off in the front and cut my hair for any dead ends cause I know I have them and get my hair back healthy.And start wearing half wigs until my I’m hair grow back to the length again
Marley Beezie says
Hey Lisa I’m Marley I had long dreads for about 6 years and wanted to go silver like storm but my hair started breaking when I went blonde to get it silver lol long story short my hair was damaged my locks were hanging for dear life mostly in the very back and in the front . It didn’t really help that I had a taper all the way around . I decided to comb out my locks because my hair touched my butt I was committed to saving my hair . Took me about 2 1/2 months to comb them out , thank god I made them big !!!! Anywho my hair is pretty thin but I see chicks with thinner hair and my hair has grown about 2 inches since I went blonde a lot of the edges behind the taper are short the middle is about 12 inches … I’m wondering if I should start over or if I should work to grow my hair back I’ve been getting braids and it does seem to grow since all of it is long enough to cornrow . I know this is a bit much but I really would like to know if I’m on the rite path or if it’s better to just cut my hair to the new growth and start fresh any advise is much apreciated
Hi I’m sim and I’ve been natural my whole life but I keep chopping my hair because of heat damage but I need help I no longer want to keep chopping off my hair the heat damage is only in the front of my hair the rest of it is 3b I often do styles to curl my hair without heat works really good but this front part doesn’t cooperate.
Transitioning. Literally actively. for 1 week. LOL. Can I touch my hair often?
Wow! You look so much like an old childhood friend of mine. I seen your pic while looking hair stuff up and I said wow she looks like my old friend Kalisia and then I see your name is Lisa which she used to call herself as well…maybe just a coincidence lol
Lol!! No I’m not Kalisa.
Yes. You can transition without the big chop. I have not had a perm since November 2014 and I am glad my hair looks better and is stronger every now I then I straighten it every three months just to check the length it is getting to the point where I don’t even need to straighten it for the length. My challenge was the first four months because I had no idea what I was doing . I learned on my own by following some tips from everyone thanks,
Chow for now Lisa M
Hi Lisa, I’m so confused and depressed about my hair. My hair was so damage i cut it off really short. In order to go natural just dont relax my hair n let it grow out?
Orjanette Bryant says
Where did the max hydration method come from? How did you discover it?
I discovered it from a lady named Pinke at maxhydrationmethod.com. Not sure if she is the creator b
Ju Ju says
The last time I relaxed my hair was September of 2014. Although I didn’t relax my hair, I would blow my hair out every 2-3 weeks. The last blow out I did was December of 2015. Will it still take time to see a curl pattern? I see it can take 6 months to a year to see progress.